What could be more powerful than Will Power?
We are taught from the get-go that we must use will power to overcome all the problems, bad-habits and ways of living that are considered destructive to our needs.
The problem is that most people struggle with will power. They feel that they don’t have any, that their strength has left them or that this magical will power and determination that other people seem to possess, is not part of their personality make-up
There is solution to this problem. And it’s here.
When you attempt to do something and it doesn’t seem to work. You analyse what went wrong, you feel that you didn’t approach the task correctly and your abilities weren’t up to scratch for the job, then you begin to berate yourself, as most humans do.
The self-punishment about not getting things right, is the result of being taught how to deal with weakness. That is, don’t tolerate it.
You are either strong or you are not. Old school teaching and living. And it’s very destructive and it’s very wrong.
Old school willpower methods should be abandoned and recognised for being destructive formulas that only lead to disappointments.
The most powerful mental ability that we have is our imagination.
The ability to visualize an idea, to see it in colour and form within the mind’s eye is the one thing that overrides all of our wants and wishes.
When we are happy and light hearted, we tend to carry images of ourselves, in the mind, of being happy and enjoying ourselves.
When we are angry or sad, there are images of this same emotion and action being reflected in the mind’s eye.
It’s a natural and often automatic mental phenomena that we use to help us be who we are.
You can test it by observing yourself when doing something around the house.
If you decide you want to make a cup of coffee or go shopping, you will see, if you look, an image of yourself carrying out the task. Before you actually do it.
For me, it’s a quick flash of the image. Probably built up and developed into a standard visual representation of doing the task many times before.
So called Will Power can also be used, in it’s more powerful visual form, for good habits and bad habits.
Observe yourself when eating, drinking, working at a task – even smoking.
The smoker has an impulse to light-up, then decides it’s time for a smoke, they see an image of themselves with a cigarette in their mouth, and the lighter sparking up the tobacco. All of this occurs as a rapid fast forward movie in the mind.
Imagine if the smoker began to decide that the impulse that they feel, is really only a general feeling for satisfaction in the body and mind?
They could divert the attention and decide to satisfy the ambiguous desire for “something” into a sandwich or fresh air.
It’s all about catching the moment. The moment when the mind begins to form the image in the mind. When that image is there, fully created in full technocolour, you will begin to act on the emotions and impulses that it creates throughout the body and mind.
Imagine that you decide from the first moment to create and image of yourself in action, carrying out a task that you normally find difficult or confusing?
Your powerful imaging, creating a mental movie of what will happen in the next few minutes, will be the motivator and the framework for your physical actions in the real world.
Sometimes, it seems difficult to visualize an idea. Some ideas and actions are so complex that they seem to defy a solid form of representation in the mind.
By breaking down the actions we can see more clearly that there are smaller components that allow us to visualize the outcome of each smaller action.
Just doing it, can give us a better understanding of the task, and so the mind will immediately begin to formulate visual mirrors of those actions that can be used to represent the whole process. Sometimes, the mind uses symbols and closely related feelings that already exists to represent a new action.
Remember, the mind is complex and not all thoughts and feelings can be expressed with words.
Feelings are attached to other feelings, emotions that are strong will override and word-thoughts that you have about changing your actions or behaviour.
Visual representations of new actions that make sense to the mind will help you to develop new habits that you know are going to be useful to you, and will automatically shift your focus away from destructive habits.
It’s up to you to decide what is a destructive habit and what is useful – the mind is not really governed by moral choices, it is governed by “best choices” for survival in all its forms.
I believe that the chain reaction of mental events that occur when a smoker lights up a cigarette, is based on a mental action that visually represents an idea of protection and well-being.
Smokers tend to reflect their reasons for smoking in terms of it helping them… concentrate, relax, socialise, etc.
The end goal of smoking seems, to the mind, to be the objective of achieving something worthwhile, a good goal. Such as relaxing etc. It’s a twisted set of images that slot together through tricky mind games. Think advertising, and you’ll know what I mean.
Logically, we could then wonder how so many of us seeking wealth and health in life end up getting it wrong, and see that maybe we don’t spend enough time thinking about the results of an outcome.
Rather, we like to have what the other guy has, ‘cause it looks good – and I bet it feels good.
Yet, we don’t have clue how it feels to be a millionaire,(many of us.) or to live without stress or worry about the morning. It would be great to know.
But how would it be possible for our minds to visualize something that we have no knowledge of?
Imagine being able to feel and know, deep down inside, how it feels to be financially wealthy. To be super-fit, athlete style fit.
If we could know these feelings, they would have enormous effects on our brains and on our way of actions.
Visualising an idea takes effort.
Rehearsing an idea in action helps us to identify its working parts and to be able to understand it more intimately. This is what we desire, to know how it feels and how it sounds, smells and feels.
To hear things, to smell and taste objects, are fleeting experiences. But, to feel how something is gives us a deeper knowledge of the whole object or idea. If we practise what we desire and develop the feelings associated with it, we will build a representation of that world, that idea into our mental system.
Instead of always hoping to become wealthy, or to become highly knowledgeable about something, try doing things a step at a time.
Find out how it feels to increase your income by a third. Show yourself that you are competent at sticking to a plan and achieving the goal of a small increase in income or important activity.
The mind can believe in change, because it has experience of it.
The mind can engage in activities associated with creating change, more money, better lifestyle, it knows this to be the norm because it wants to follow the principles of self-protection, survival, and achieving security. These are good reasons for the mind to take your desires seriously.
- The images and visions that we have about how we live, are what we follow as a mental script.
- Did you create these images , or did your environment create them for you?
- Whatever is in the mind is what’s going to motivate you to action. And those actions may lead to better things or to more stress, it depends on how well you have thought through about the outcomes of your “Wants & Needs”.
- The Image is the powerful motivator which will cause you to take actions towards anything you want
- Clarity of Vision is key in being successful with “will-power”.
- Your vision and image of self, and of building something better in the world, must be congruent with who you are. Use images to create self, and to create circumstances of wealth and health.
- Self-Image and Self-Esteem are closely linked. Self Image is who you are and will dictate how you act, to what you are capable.
- Self-Esteem, is your deeper sense of whether you deserve those things – even personality changes for the better can be challenged by low self esteem. Building high self esteem is building a healthy outlook and self respecting self image.
Thanks for reading, and getting so far.
I hope what I write is value to you, and helps you to think seriously about yourself and your own needs. I don’t want to write rules, just a few ideas to prompt thought amongst people who know that we all live in a very colourful and varied world.
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